Virtually all my life I have known I am bi. I came from a tough sporting family and being anything other than ‘normal’ was not an option. I was a top sports player and semi-pro in many sports myself so hiding it was easy. It just wasn’t done and wasn’t me/ or so I thought!
In life I have had time to reflect. Time to realise that being bi is actually ok. Actually acceptable when before it was simply wrong or not done. I have missed most of my life and turned away from many opportunities when I might have ventured but didn’t. I felt guilty when I came close but then spent the next few weeks fantasising about what might of happened. I now wish it did!
I didn’t fully realise or should I say really accept, I was bi until I was 40! I have left so many opportunities on the table! I regret not talking them now.
So I suppose, this message is to those that might be in a quandary. Just go for it, and don’t have regrets like I do. Be Proud!
Anonymous asked: Are you still active? I'm hopefully going to be a student in Edinburgh this September and it seems like the perfect community 💜
We are indeed! We’re a lot more active over on Facebook, though, so check us out there to keep up with events and meetings. Looking forward to seeing you in September!
I know a lot of lesbians that used to identify as bi who worried that coming out as a lesbian would contribute to invalidating bisexuality in some way, by making it seem like a “stepping stone” to coming out as gay. I’ve also known bi women who identified as lesbians and changed their labels later, and worried that they were contributing to some kind of idea about how men can ~turn lesbians. I just wanted to say that it’s no individual lesbian or bi women’s responsibility to fix straight people’s perception of us. Like, it’s not your duty to serve as a political symbol! It’s your duty to find happiness even if that means changing ur label at some points.
halsey: Bless the women who have paved the way for us to yell loudly and proudly. The world is watching the world is listening. I’m honored to be alive in this moment in history. This brave one is heavy on my mind today 🙏❤️
Remember that you’re still a completely valid bi person even if you’re not out of the closet, even if you’re struggling with internalized biphobia, even if you’re still questioning, even if you’re doubting your bisexuality from time to time: you’re all valid, and nothing can keep you from being a part of this community.
A little sketch comic about how bisexuality is totally cool and good and not bad.
The format is
cliché! I know. But it makes it easy to talk about things I want to talk about. Thanks for reading!
(I shouldn’t have to say this, but since a lot of people wanted to educate me on twitter: The words listed in panel seven [yes even in the parentheticals!] are just examples of how often acceptable language around gender and sexuality changes. They are not lists of synonymous words, and many of them are now considered unacceptable. That’s why they’re on the list. That’s what the list IS. I know.)
The B’is of Colour History Report has been reprinted as a full-colour A5 booklet, just in time for Pride season!
If you would like some free copies for your stall at Pride or any other event that needs bisexual visibility, email us at bis.of.colour@gmail.com and we can send some out to you. We have a limited budget, so we can only send a small amount outside the United Kingdom (overseas postage is wicked-expensive), but give us an email and we will try to sort something out.
I have seen this biphobic and transphobic gotcha trotted out repeatedly by trolls who can’t accept that there are more than two genders and that bi doesn’t mean two.
Do not use bisexuality as a pawn in your transphobic, nbphobic and intersexist arguments, bisexuality is the attraction to two or more genders, it does not enforce the gender binary, it does include trans and non binary people and many trans and non binary people identify as bisexual without negating their gender identity.
Who: Bisexuals and all people in Edinburgh who identify in some way as non-monosexual.
When: 1st and 3rd Wednesdays, at 7 PM.
Where: LGBT Health and Wellbeing, 9 Howe St, Edinburgh.
What: Each meeting is different! Sometimes we play games, sometimes we have discussions or bring food, sometimes we do workshops. Check out what's on next, then come along and see for yourself!
Why: To build a community and a safe space for people in Edinburgh who are bisexual or who identify as another similar label or choose not to label their sexuality at all.
